Why's It Took 7 Years Doc?

Some of you may remember me mentioning Spud's hernia operation in his 7th Birthday letter I wrote to him here, if not, if this post makes no sense to you, I really do recommend you reading that post first, otherwise this post may seem like I'm talking another language. Briefly, Spud had a emergency hernia operation when he was 3 weeks old, my local hospital (which I am truly grateful for I am) couldn't operate on Spud as he was born 7 weeks early (at 33 weeks) weighing a small and very tiny 4lb at birth, still at 3 weeks old weighed a very small 4.3lbs, being under 5lb in weight, my local hospital couldn't operate on him. Spud was rushed via ambulance to John Radcliffe Hospital, a hospital I say thanks to on a daily basis, for they saved Spud and also my cousin in 2011 (for legal reasons I can't talk about this incident) who was on death doors.

On leaving John Radcliffe, sometime in April 2006, I was told the discharge procedure, I was told one of Spud's two testicles was still lodged up high and had not proceeded to drop into the testicle sack, I was told to regularly check for the second testicle to drop, and that if it had not dropped within 2 weeks to take Spud to our doctors. Well the second testicle didn't drop, and never has, I took Spud to the doctor's when he was around 5-6 weeks old, 2 weeks after his operation, I told them about the missing testicle, I carried on telling them about his missing testicle at every opportuntiy, his 6, 12 and 18 month check ups, with the childhood illnesses he had that led to us needing a doctor's appointment, I told them at every chance possible. 

Spud's 7 now, my perfect beautiful little boy, my life, my entire world, the reason why I smile through what ever rubbish (I've written this sentence plenty of times, I really want to write where rubbish sits a swear word beginning with s and ending with t!!) life throws at me, the child I couldn't be more proud of, to not care about others children who are so good at this they get medals, who go to sleep in a perfect routine every night, who is excellent at this, that and this, I couldn't care less, I'll argue with you till the pigs fly, my son's excellent, perfect, amazing, beautiful and best of all he's all mine. If the sperm donor favours his other off spring before the child that keeps him in this country then so let him, he's the one who misses out,day in and day out, because our MY child is perfect to me.

But the doctor's would argue otherwise you see, the very same doctor;s who I've been telling for the last 7 years, now they want to listen, now they want to take action, the trip started with a cure for tonsilitus, next Spud's being reffered to the hospital! Baffling and confusing, your telling me! On Sunday, Spud become very clingy with a temperature of 39.3, I immediately stripped him down to his vest and pants and gave him calpol, Spud was very clearly not well, changing from a happy energetic little bouncing bean to a poorly prince who just wanted to lay down and cuddle his Mummy all day . On stripping Spud down, he started shivering and shaking, crying he was cold, crying he wanted a blanket, you feel evil don't you!? You know for the best, your child needs cooling down asap, you want to place a cold flannel on their foreheads, strip them down to their underwear and open every window in the property, but the infection that has decided to kidnap your child's body is confusing your child, the body naturally tries to fight the infection, that's making your child so hot, but your child develops a fever and think's their freezing cold, a catch 22, the time you close your eyes and wish it was you taking the infection instead.

Monday morning comes, I originally had my alarm set for 7am, it was meant to be Spud's first day back to school after having the Easter holidays off, he couldn't wait to return to school, couldn't wait to tell his friends about Easter, Chesington, Lego, our holiday, Lego, the train rides he's been on, Lego, Lego and more Lego, but that horrid infection has prevented this, whilst not Spud's fault but the infection had kept us up most of the night, sore throat, ear aches, head aches and feeling sick, so the alarm got moved back an hour to 8am, no way was Spud to go to school in his condition plus being majorly tired. I got an emergency doctor's appointment, Spud was given the doctor's diagnosis of tonsillitis and a ear infection and whilst there, I once again mentioned the second testicle missing and once again Spud was examined on the DR's bed only this time, the DR told me something I had not heard before, in 7 years of telling these DR's that something was not right, this particular DR agreed.

I'm sending a referral to the hospital the DR said, I held Spud's hand as the doc pressed down, moved around and tried unsuccessfully to find Spuds second missing testicle, ''and you've never seen it?'' the doc asked me twice, never I replied, hence why I've told every DR I've seen. Only this appointment was an emergency appointment, and we managed to get in with the head doctor, finally we have a lead, somewhere to start, after the DR couldn't find the second testicle, instead of telling us like the other DR's it was fine, the DR has referred Spud to the local hospital for a ultra sound. 

Why oh why has it took 7 years I'd like to know, for now, that can wait, I am just happy that after 7 years of waiting we have finally got somewhere. For now we wait patiently for an appointment letter to arrive from the hospital, we wait and see what the verdict is. To be honest I don't know what happens next, I do however have a list of questions I'd like to be answered.

I'd love to hear from anyone else in a similar experience? Please do leave a comment or get in touch.

Jade xx

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  1. Hi Jade, my husband had a similar thing but they operated on him at 5 weeks old and had to remove the testical. I hope Spud is ok x

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    1. Hello hun, ohh no bless him, I take it that your husband has been able to have children? I know I shouldn't be thinking about it, but I'm so worried they will say something like he can't have kids, I know he's a child himself, but for the future xx

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  2. My Son was born with an undecended testicle too. At 2 and a half we were in Great Ormand street hospital where they used keyhole surgery to bring the testicle down from behind the kidney where they originate and then tied it into the sac.

    It is an easy procedure and my son was a lot younger so really wasn't bothered. You were right to keep on though as if left untreated it can be cancerous in later life.

    (my dad had this too but it wasn't diagnosed till he was in his 30's although he had to have it removed. (p.s. though it's apparently not hereditary just a major fluke))

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    1. Hello Donna,

      Thanks for reading the post and leaving a comment. I hope both your Son and Dad are both ok now? We are still waiting for our referal, I am going to be so angry with my doctor's if he needs another operation, for the simple fact is I've been telling them for years about this! Hopefully it's nothing serious and thank you for the informing me about that, I had no clue!

      Jade xx

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    2. You should read this article http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/undescendedtesticles/Pages/Introduction.aspx it has a lot of useful information that you can use as ammo at the doctors.

      Good Luck

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    3. p.s. my son is nearly 14 and he's perfectly fine. My dad is OK now too but there are lots of fun comments from his friends about Bobby he's only got one ball ;)

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  3. It comes to something when uve told and told the doctors that something is wrong ! I'm so glad u kept on to the doctors, many parents wouldn't and just take there word ! Just goes to show mummy knows best ! & ur a fantastic mummy! & spud does great just with u , he don't his sperm doner :). X

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    1. Hello Donna,

      Thanks for reading the post and leaving a comment, I am just annoyed at the fact that a simple check of his testicles and you can see that the second testicle wasn't there, along with all of Spud's other health problems it really does make you think. The other Donna above mentioned something I am going too look into. I think as parents we should always always trust our instincts and kick up a fuss if needs be. Its always better to be safe then sorry is a fantastic life motto!!

      Jade xx

      P.S - Who's the sperm donor? ;-) I've done it all this time by myself for the last 7 year's I sure as don't need his sorry a*s for any help now! He's just an embarrassment and a joke to be allowed in this country, gosh knows why immigration don't do proper checks. Oh wait, they do, they they are just shouted at by criminals demanding they have human rights! WRONGENS!! I have had the pleasure of seeing Spud at every school play, sports day, seeing him progress not just at school but at home too, I've watched him sit up to crawl, walk to run, babble to speak, learn to teach, he's mine and there is not no way I'd ever share with him, never ever over my dead body, Spud doesn't even know what he is tbh, he calls himself Daddy but he doesn't act like one! As for me, call me Mummy or Daddy I'll answer to both, as it is me thats played both roles!

      Jade xx

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